While I was working with my client, Sue, her mother came through to give her some advice. The kind of advice you would expect a mother to give her child. She spoke mostly about Sue’s health. Mom told Sue she worried too much, and she reassured he that she was healthy.
Mom continued to guide her to learn to enjoy her life. She told me she understood how Sue was not able to do that because of the way she treated Sue. She apologized to Sue for being cold to her and for how she was struggling with severe depression that was never diagnosed. Mom told me Sue never understood her and what was going on with her at the time. She told me Sue always believed she hated her, which was not true.
She understood how Sue would have felt that way, and wanted Sue to know she was sorry and made it clear the reason why she was the way she was here.
When I told Sue what her mother was telling me about how she couldn’t connect with her and how angry she was here, all due to her mental state of severe depression. Mom wanted to make it very clear how, when she drove Sue’s dad away, it wasn’t him, it was her. As a matter of fact, Mom made sure that Dad stayed away from Sue. She warned Sue that he was not a nice guy, that it was not just depression but some paranoia as well.
She understands how Sue felt, but kept telling Sue it wasn’t the real her; she tried to drop the wall she was hiding behind; however, no matter how hard she tried, she could never accomplish it.
After Sue received her messages, I asked Sue if she had any questions. She was angry that her mother came through because her mother was evil to her and hated her. Sue confirmed everything she was told. Sue added that later in life, just before his passing, her dad was watching her but was afraid to approach her because he didn’t want Sue to go after him.
Sue, who has a lot of anger and is hiding her emotions by being sick. I have been working with Sue for a while. When she first came to me, it was all about her health and how sick she was. As time went on and I soft peddled the messages about how healthy she is it began to sink in, I know it was her mom and dad working on her. Sue is now beginning to let all her anger go as she now understands why her mother treated her the way she did.
The toughest part of our sessions was trying to let Sue know we change when we pass, we become whole once we get to the other side, and that all the anger goes away. That took some doing, but I finally got Sue to understand that her mother wasn’t evil; it was an illness. I told her some people are evil here, but they go into the dark and do not come out.
We have made a lot of progress in getting Sue to understand how her mother has changed, and there is no longer any hate or anger on the other side, only love, compassion, and understanding as they attempt to guide us through what it is here that has us stuck. It’s up to us to follow their guidance to a better life. Why not? You have free will, but don’t you deserve a better life without all the hate, anger, and resentment?
You absolutely do. Start the journey; it will be a beautiful one.
Always remain hopeful, never hopeless. Always be optimistic, never pessimistic.
