My client’s daughter is angry; because she doesn’t agree with her parents’ political views, especially her father’s. They do not talk about them. especially to her. They know they can’t change people’s minds.
However, during conversations, which are usually about what they are doing that day or many other things, she always has to drop a bomb in the middle of the conversation. She wants to trigger them, but they just let it go without addressing the comment. This is displaced anger; she is angry with herself because of things she did in the past, mistakes. We all make mistakes in our lives. I call it the human condition. We need to let them go if we want to live a healthy, happy life.
What happens as we go down that angry path, we find friends, in this case, she has radical friends, she lives in their bubble. They all feed off each other’s anger. These are the kind of friends you have to always be in agreement with.
When you are always attempting to get others outside that bubble to come along with you, you begin to lose friends. If you keep it up, eventually your family begins to peel off as well, and before long, you find yourself alone.
As the issues or causes leave, they always do, you will wonder if it was all worth it. The answer for people who are not radicalized will be no. STOP that, find some happiness, some joy in life, it’s there, you can see it once you forgive yourself and realize you were just a pawn on someone else’s chessboard. It’s okay to find joy, it’s okay to be happy & it’s really okay to let go of that anger, understand we all make mistakes usually of our own doing so stop blaming others, let all that go & move on, if not you will lose so much more in life. Find the good in others, stop looking for villains, because they really aren’t there.
Always Remain Hopeful, never hopeless… Always be optimistic, never Pessimistic.