I hear from souls on occasion that they passed because they were in a bad relationship or a dead-end job. A situation they felt they couldn’t escape, they projected their life would never change, never get better, never get relief.
Some get sick to help get control, it’s the only control they feel they have over their life, women in bad relationships, men who believe the woman they are with who mistreat them, a child whose put in a situation they hate by the created by a bad family court discussion causing fear and anxiety hoping the other parent will save them but can’t.
They resort to illness or drugs, hoping to get some control over their life. They pass because they believe it’s their only way out.
This is depression; when we are depressed, we can not see anything correctly. It also stems from a lack of confidence, because we were told as children we would never be any better than we are, perhaps not in that way. A parent controls them by telling them they make us better, that is control on steroids.
It’s difficult to break this way of thinking, but it can be broken.
First, take control of yourself and your life, look at what you have accomplished, no matter how small that accomplishment may be.
It may take baby steps to get to the other side of this, but baby steps will work, as you walk the new journey and see what you’re capable of doing, most of all, accept your capabilities and improve on them. If you take those baby steps, they will turn to walking and eventually running toward a better you and a better life. Have confidence in yourself. Let the echoes of the past go, they no longer have a reason to be there, let alone any meaning.
If you have a child in a bad custody situation created by the courts, reinforce who they are and how strong they are in a bad situation, let them look at themselves with pride. Show them how they should be proud of themselves and how they are dealing with it, if they aren’t dealing with it the way they should, don’t give up and say this is how it’s going to be, no, never give up, never, never give up.
Never project, I have done several pieces on this, we don’t know what the future holds if you project things will never change you are setting yourself up for failure, if you look at how you can positively deal with the future move toward a better future, if you suffer a set back don’t stop, take a good look at how you can get past it, learn from it, remember nothing worth doing is easy.
Every successful person has failed at something, but learn from it and kept going.
Always remain Hopeful, never hopeless, always be optimistic, never pessimistic.
