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I can see you asking yourself who else would I be? Well, sadly we sometimes try to be someone we are not, someone we think others will like, say someone you’re trying to date, or someone you want to be friends with. It could be any number of things, from that new potential partner, or even a new job you’re applying for, or perhaps you are just trying to fit in, in general.

Case in point, when I was the tender age of 13, is that a tender age, probably not, but at 13 my buddy Franky, and I were going to the movies. Frankie was two years older than me at the time and maybe it was his age stirring up his interest in girls. While we were on our way, he told me if we meet some girls don’t tell them we liked doing what we do, we were outdoors kind of kids but he didn’t want them to know that, in particular, tracking animals in the snow, fishing, and other things we enjoyed at the time. We built a fort & raised rabbits as well. Frankie thought all that was “uncool” but I was enjoying my life & didn’t care.

Now, full disclosure here, I was strictly looking to enjoy the movie nothing more.

Wait, I just realized while writing this I may have understood how much trouble the opposite sex could be, amazing how enlightened I was at that age, but I digress.

 I said to Frankie, just be yourself, don’t try to be someone you’re not just to impress girls. I told him if they like the guy you’re trying to be, you will not be able to keep up the charade (I doubt I used that word at that age), eventually, you will have to be yourself. What if they like the guy you were pretending to be not who you are, then what will you do?

The point is this, never want someone or something so badly you are willing to give up your identity, and your individualism to impress them. If you are who you are, they will either like that person or not. If they don’t like you for who you are it’s just not meant to be and move on, or as I like to say, “NEXT”, you will be so much happier in life by following that simple rule.

Always be true to yourself, if you can’t be true to yourself, you can’t be true to others.

If you don’t like who you are for whatever reason work on changing yourself but that is another subject for another time. Have faith and confidence in who you are.

Bob Buchanan

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