As we travel through life we will come in contact with all types of people, from wonderful to toxic and everywhere in between, some who want to help you, make you laugh teach and support you, and be there when you need them.
On the flip side, others will go out of their way, to disrupt your life, and take control over you. These could be bosses, friends, or teachers. It is inevitable we will encounter toxic people, it’s how you deal with them that makes the difference in your life.
These are miserable people, who try to create chaos, their goal is to make you as unhappy as they are, pulling you down to their level. You have to let them go and that which they created, do not give them any power, that creates grudges.
When you hold a grudge, you allow that person to control you, and continue disrupting your life. Perhaps, you didn’t do something because someone prevented you from doing it. Let it go, understanding it wasn’t them, you did that, and most likely whatever it was, it wasn’t right for you at the time. You also should realize who they are, most are bullies and narcissists, they are incapable of happiness and look to disrupt the lives of others for the attention they seek. Being aware of who they are not who they want you to think they are, helps enormously in getting your life together and put them in their place.
Once you understand who they are, you can pull things together in your mind. Doing that will help you to let it go. Look at the past, not with regret but as lessons that will continue to help you throughout your life. Smile at how you got through it, you did, breathe a sigh of relief, step away from the situation, leaving it in the past. and move on.
Just because somebody seems to be happy doesn’t mean they are. The best thing you can do is not let them live rent-free in your head.
Always remember your life is up to you, you can struggle with toxic people and continue to allow them to interfere in your life. Again, make that hard choice to walk away, and stop making excuses why you can’t walk away from that situation. Everything is possible in life, it’s your journey and only you can find strength and you will finally find happiness once you take that control.
It is not easy, then again nothing worth while is easy, have confidence, you can do it!